First, the good news: Brianna is making great strides in her training as a service dog. We are still working on basic obedience and public exposure. She comes to all of my classes with me, and my students just love her. She behaves perfectly in class, on the bus, and on the train (though that can’t be said of her all the rest of the time!)
The other good news is that I now have a case manager through the Department of Aging and Disability (DADS). By the way, I’m a client because I’m disabled, not because I’m old! J My case manager, Charles, has approved me for four days (14 ½ hours) per week of in-home assistance. This will cover cooking, cleaning, grooming, and laundry. What’s interesting is that a couple of years ago I would have viewed this development as ‘bad‘ news instead of good. It’s amazing what happens to your attitude when you really need this type of assistance.
The not-so-good news is that the defense of my dissertation has been postponed a couple of weeks. I was desperately trying to finish my proposal to get it to my committee members as soon as possible for the presentation coming in just a couple of days (they should have had the proposal a couple of weeks ago!) Well, my advisor and I were shooting drafts of the proposal back and forth by email, trying to get a final version out by last night. While frustrated with the editing needed, and excited/overwhelmed by new findings, my brain just froze. Massive confusion set in, and I could barely put two words together let alone write logical arguments regarding molecular neurobiology. I panicked. I could just hear my physical and occupational therapists telling me to take a break for a few hours and come back later. The words of the neuropsychologist who tested my cognition and fine motor skills re-echoed her warning that this feeling would happen and to seek the help of someone else to help me solve new problems. The dilemma was that I literally didn’t have the time. I couldn’t follow the advice of my therapists on how to deal with my MS and still meet my deadline.
I was so upset, yet I calmly called my professor and she graciously allowed me to re-schedule my proposal presentation and told me not to stress out about it. This unfortunately will most likely push my graduation from August to December, but she and my committee have been so supportive and protective of me. They were great, but I couldn’t handle it. I felt like such a failure. Recently two of my colleagues have informed me that I am known as “the writer” of the lab, yet I couldn’t crank out my proposal in time. My goals, my future, and worse yet, my sense of identity were slipping out of my control.
Before re-scheduling, while I still struggled to finish, I kept praying and asking for help. I asked God for clarity and peace of mind. I think that’s why I felt even more like a failure when I still couldn’t finish on time. Why didn’t I get the help I needed? It was only after I had re-scheduled and my professor had comforted me to not stress out over this, that I then remembered that my goal lately had been to pray, “Thy will be done, not my will.” Then today I was reading and found a wonderful quote in this month’s Ensign:
When someone has an ailment or an illness and they are healed as
as the result of a blessing, their faith is being strengthened. But for
those who aren’t healed but continue faithful, their faith is being
perfected. The first is a faith-promoting experience. The second is
faith-perfecting.
So I guess that means my imperfection is perfect! J